The Nature of Things -->

Even with good intentions you can not intervene in the natural way someone exists.

To elaborate: Invariably you will meet a person that goes about certain situations in a way that YOU feel are destructive. In these instances and especially when you love that person you try to intervene, well i know i do. I have to learn to work with a person. I can’t force change nor should I assume that a particular behavior is destructive. Also i must keep in mind that each person learns on there own terms and works on things through out there whole live’s. You cannot take on the responsibility of trying to solve, what YOU believe to be, problems without them having an already present willingness to do so or awareness of a problem in the first place. On most parts i belive we can only be guided in the direction that we are already traveling. Yes there are external influences but we choose what we want or don’t want to influence us.

So now what? Well as hard as it is for me i think i should let things exists as they are. Enjoy what you love about a person. Bring out those qualities. If you see a persisting action or behavior that you feel is not beneficial for your loved one then you can address it. They key is not to directly address them. Do it so they can come to understand it on there own terms. If they don’t, reevaluate the situation. Perhaps in the process of trying to show them you learn that you are in fact wrong. Which ever way it turns out it is important to enjoy what is good and develop that. Then the negative things will be dealt with natural. No point in trying to solve too much to fast. Even IF you are right about the situation it wont necessarily resolve anything. This is what I think today.